Interviews are an essential part of the selection process. Here are the questions to ask wedding planners so you can find the perfect match.
Last updated February 7, 2024
You’ve decided to hire a wedding planner to help you plan your big day. Good idea! But how do you choose one? A wedding planner’s job is to bring your vision to life, from coordinating vendors to creating and managing a detailed day-of timeline. Different wedding planners will have different specialties and planning styles, so your first step is to screen them to make sure they’re a fit — creatively and financially.
Don’t worry about coming up with all your wedding planner questions yourself — that’s where we can help. We’ve rounded up the best questions to ask a wedding planner, plus helpful tips on what to consider, both before and after you interview them.
Start by asking them basic questions about their background in the wedding space. Then move on to questions about pre-planning and execution for your event. Here’s everything to ask your wedding planner at your first meeting.
One of the first questions to ask a prospective wedding planner is whether they’re available on your wedding day. If you haven’t selected a date yet, the planner can help you choose one.
Wedding planners offer plenty of different services, from full-service planning where they oversee every aspect of the process, to day-of coordination, which mainly takes the burden off your shoulders on the day you’re getting married.
Ask your wedding planner how their services make them different. Their answer will speak volumes about their level of creativity, attention to detail, and any unique specialties they offer.
Before you decide on the best planner, ask for a few references from clients and vendors they’ve worked with in the past. References are a great confidence booster, and they can also give you ideas for your big day that you wouldn’t otherwise have thought of.
While it can be a relief to choose someone with a lot of experience, newer planners might have more energy and can be more in step with new ideas. Make sure your chosen planner’s level of expertise fits your comfort zone.
Ask your planner about their company’s ethos, and how their mission translates into wedding planning and selecting vendors. It’s so important to work with a team that truly cares about your relationship, and wants to make you happy.
A one-size-fits-all wedding planner can leave you feeling underwhelmed. Get a sense of your planner’s adaptability, and whether they can tailor their services to satisfy your specific needs and vision.
Expert Advice: If you’re wondering whether you actually need a wedding planner, see our guide: Do I Need a Wedding Planner?
Find out if your planner specializes in specific wedding themes or styles, such as destination weddings, luxury events, or micro weddings. If your vision falls outside their specialty, they may not be a fit for you.
You’ll naturally face a few hurdles, from last-minute vendor cancellations to guest list changes. Find out a little about your planner’s problem-solving skills, so you can have the faith that you’ll be in good hands on your wedding day.
Everyone’s communication style is different. One planner might prefer calls, while another sticks to emails. Remember to share your preferences as well. That way, you’re both on the same page moving forward.
You may be surprised at how many meetings you’ll have with your planner, whether they’re in person, virtual, or both. Ask how often these will take place, and how you’ll stay updated until your big day arrives.
Ask about whether the planner will be comfortable taking responsibility for valuable personal items during the day. For example, can they take charge of the bride's wallet, phone, tips for vendors, or even the rings? Some coordinators will also collect wedding cards and gifts and bring them back to where the couple is staying. That lets the couple enjoy the end of the night without unnecessary worry.
One thing that makes a good wedding planner is that they’ll be accommodating to the needs of all of your guests. Ask them how they handle accessibility and inclusion, so your wedding can be as welcoming as possible for everyone.
Timelines are a must-have in wedding planning. You’ll likely need to follow a checklist of tasks to complete (either with your planner or on your own) before your special day. These will start booking a venue and move on to when to save the dates and go all the way through to registering for wedding gifts.
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Planning a wedding can get overwhelming fast. That’s why many couples delegate extra responsibilities to their wedding planner, such as touring rehearsals and venues, putting together gifts and favors, and creating beautiful wedding signage.
Your wedding planner will likely have a list of trusty vendors they've worked with before, making it super easy to book photographers, caterers, florists, and others. Or, you might have the option to pick your own wedding vendors that aren’t on their preferred list.
Working with vendors — especially on complicated negotiations and contracts — can be tricky. An experienced wedding planner will know how to get the most for your money, while ensuring what you get matches your vision of your dream event.
You can’t forget about your wedding stationery, like your wedding invitations, save the dates, and RSVP cards. Some wedding planners will help design the suite's aesthetic, assemble the cards, and mail them out to family and friends — taking all the stress off you.
What about everything you have to rent for your wedding day? Someone will need to be in charge of the arrival, setup, and pickup of your rental items. These can include your table and chairs, table linens, lighting, the dance floor, and more.
Starting in the early morning until the celebration is over, have your wedding planner provide a detailed summary of their responsibilities on the actual day. That way, you’ll know how they’ll interact with you and your partner, your wedding party, and vendors throughout the event.
Your wedding planner can’t be everywhere at once, so having a supportive team behind might be helpful depending on the scale of your wedding. Ask your wedding planner if they’ll bring any assistants, coordinators, or event designers to help with your event.
Coordinating schedules for the couple, the wedding party, vendors, and guests requires a ton of preparation. You may even want to keep certain details about the ceremony a surprise. A detailed timeline will keep everyone on track leading up to the day.
For DIY couples, creating your own signage and decorations adds a personal touch to the event, and also saves you money. Ask if your planner is willing to set up your handmade decor items and pack them after the event wraps up.
No matter how much you prepare, it’s only natural that problems will pop up on your wedding day. A good wedding planner will be able to adapt to last-minute changes or emergencies, so your event goes off without a hitch.
Life happens, so there’s a chance your wedding planner may not be there for your wedding day. Ask about their back-up plans and how they’ll make sure you’re fully taken care of if they’re absent.
You don’t want to hire a wedding planner only to realize later that you can’t afford them. Ask them for a breakdown of their services and the various packages they offer, as well as any additional fees, like meals and travel, so there are no surprises.
Before they start planning your wedding, your planner will likely ask you to sign a contract and submit a deposit. Ask them what the payment schedule looks like, and most importantly, when the final payment is due.
Read our article What to Look for in a Wedding Planner Contract.
Share your wedding budget with your planner, along with your overall vision for your event. Do you want a destination wedding in France? Or maybe a countryside farm wedding? Whatever your vibe is, they may be able to work with you to plan an event you’ll love, at a price you’re comfortable with.
You also want to make sure that they’ve taken precautions to protect you, such as securing wedding insurance. Ask about their insurance coverage and what types of scenarios are covered, in case something (or someone) gets damaged or injured.
There's always the chance you might have to reschedule or cancel your event. Knowing your wedding planner's cancellation policy from the beginning will give you peace of mind.
Most wedding planners have a website or social media pages filled with photos and videos of their past weddings. Look at their past work to get a sense of their style and creativity. This will help you figure out if their style is a fit for you.
Your wedding planner can get inspiration for wedding planning from all kinds of places, from watching TikTok videos to scrolling on Pinterest. You can also ask if they have any ideas for your event based on your initial talk.
Some couples may want a trendy wedding that’s up-to-date on the latest trends in fashion, decor, and food. If this sounds like you, ask your planner how they stay current in an industry that’s constantly evolving.
Have your wedding planner share the most interesting wedding they've coordinated. You’ll learn a ton about your wedding planner's creativity and how they create one-of-a-kind events for couples.
Before you hire a wedding planner, have an honest talk with your partner about your wedding wants and needs. Here are a few ways to prepare for your first meeting:
Whether you want support from start to finish or just on the day of, here are the most common types of wedding planners:
After your first meeting, here are some important steps to take before committing to a wedding planner:
Now that you know what questions to ask a wedding planner, it’s time to start your search for the perfect one! If you need help finding someone to execute your magical event, head over to our wedding planner search and find people that align with your budget, location, and style.
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